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Dancing with the flow!
In any relationship, what binds people together is the way they communicate. A healthy communication keeps relationship alive, it does great deal of help in finding the lost way come back and connects the disconnect.
When you are upset in your relationship – think of accommodating people; spread out your hands to hide people in your arms. Accommodate people; they need your warmth, acceptance and recognition. Your hug would be creating heavenly moments for people. An appreciative hug, an acceptance hug can release you both from the sense of hurt generated by insecurity, anger and frustration. A true hug is limitless, boundless and hence it will make you dance without steps, without a right or wrong. Your dance with your partner communicates you are accepting and you are acceptable. Whenever you have a tussle with people, choose to remain communicative, choose not to get into a silent mode. It is really not the silent mode; it is the worst violent mode.
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Have you ever encountered your fear, anxiety and insecurities, face to face? It is not only hard but painful to take inventory of our insecurities and weaknesses. It is very hard and painful to know and feel not accepted by people around. In such a situation, it is next to impossible to remain responsive and stop reactive. In such situations we are emotionally disturbed and feel to withdraw and escape. If we are not willing to accept and accommodate disturbance and discomfort, well then we’ll never grow.

If we can’t grow as a total individual or as a total person, our relationships can’t grow. We’ll be stuck wanting approvals, acceptance, not real relationship - which is the ability to be truly show our true face that belongs to people around.
When something is very taxing in any relationship, then we perceive as a sign that something is drastically wrong – we switch to reactive mode. We see things going wrong. We fail in every aspect of relationship – communication, confidence, attitu…
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Making relationship work:
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships?   It's to take full responsibility for the relationship, expecting nothing in return.

Practicing this “Prasada Bhuddi” is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline and attitude to think, act and give much more. Each of us must determine the vision of relationships and to what principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work-associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends. In this scheme of things, we leave one person and seldom have we applied to oneself.
Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate acceptance, compassion, accommodation, respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not. Do not expect anything in return. Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take …
What defines your worth? 
Normally, we define our worth externally, through others' approval’ and ‘acceptance’.  We think, or we have been programmed to define our weight, our hair, our money, our job, our car, our clothes, our house, our mate, or the people we know as our worth. 
This attitude of looking outside to discover our worth creates considerable amount of hurt and guilt, which results in creating unhealthy self – image. With unhealthy self – image, I become a lone wounded solider – a Ninja. When our carefully nurtured Ninja is operating, we are constantly trying to look right and perform right, in order to get others attention, love and approval. The emotionally wounded solider feels worthy only when he receives validation from people around.  
This creates pain, anger, helplessness, stress and anxiety – emotional disturbance. We feel insecure when our whole sense of worth hinges upon getting others' approval and attention. We may even feel panicked when we fear makin…
People who do good things feel good about themselves!


Once upon a time in ancient Dwarasamudra, there lived a beautiful princess; Priyanka. One day, her father the King Vikrama announced that he would give his daughter's hand in marriage to the noblest, kindest, most honest man in the land. Many, eager to marry a beautiful royal wife, came to woo the princess. One of these men was Maha Rana - a criminal who had heard that the princess would be choosing from among her suitors. Maha Rana knew he could not win her if she saw who he was, so he made himself a mask with the most honorable expression. He put on the mask and went to call on the princess Priyanka. When she met him, she was very taken with his impressive mask. "I think I shall marry this one," she told her father. "For clearly, he is the noblest, kindest, most honest man among all the others." The King Vikrama announced a wedding date for one year hence. Maha Rana - the criminal was thrilled with his victory. But…
One day, I was walking through the walking paths of woods of the ashrama. It was a gorgeous evening; Sun was preparing to set. Suddenly, there was a big snake in front of me. I had almost stepped on, no one around and this could be painful death. I was paralyzed by fear, my body had broken into a sweat, my heart was beating to pop out.  But then, suddenly Guruji came and he dared to have a glance at the snake. Surprisingly, he claimed, “Devadutta, it is a rope. That snake is a rope”. Now I realized I am safe and free from the fear of the snake. I can encounter this false snake for years after year. The entire Gurukula or for that matter the entire world could come upon this snake and scare themselves to death – I could remain fearlessly.  Guruji continued, “We build up our own stories, fear, pain and judgements about why it is a snake and not a rope. Our argument is to prove that the rope is a snake. We see and make others see a snake in the rope”. Now, I am not afraid of this snake,…
Your Values: The back bone of your society, organization, family and your life!
Over the last couple of years, We, Anugraha Foundation – The foundation for living values, has been engaged in building a holistic infrastructure on the human resource front to realize a definite leadership aspiration in the global arena. Sreyas, our self – growth initiative, Madhuvarshini, family value initiative, Excellence at workplace, our organizational transformation initiative, are our salutation to the mission of “Living Values” and are milestones of this purposeful journey. And very recently, a new and significant initiative has been launched across the learning to transform horizon wherein we have more sharply associated with people in learning, clarifying, assimilating and living values.
Values define characters and personality; Values guide, shape and influence our behavior, choices and actions. The external world perceives and responds to us based on the way we go about conducting our choices.…